After the twins were born, I dreaded having to go back to work after my 12 weeks of maternity leave was up. The first few days were really difficult for me and I cried all the way to work. I didn’t realize how hard it would be to be working again. Each day at work got easier and I am slowing adjusting to being away from the babies but I still feel the guilt every day. I know I can’t be the only one feeling this working mom guilt.
I want to be able to stay home with my babies and be there for all their milestones. They are changing so quickly and I get upset when I miss their “firsts”. Don’t get me wrong, I love working and making money to contribute to our household income, but I want the luxury of both money and time with my family. I know there are people out there that work from home doing things they love and get to spend more time with their family. I want that for me and my family.
It did not take me long to realize that working the 9-5 job every week was not for me. I have tried many different jobs that would allow me to have more freedom and free time, without much success. I want to be able to work when I want and where I want. I have high hopes that this blog will help me get there. There are so many other moms that are doing it, why not me? I have the motivation and will work hard to get it.
I put together some of my tips on how I ease the guilt of leaving my kids every day when I go to work.
1. Focus on the end goal – I will work hard for the next year and put everything I have into this blog so I can start making full time money off of it. I wake up early before work and I go to sleep late. I have committed myself to doing everything I can to meet my goal of working from home. When I am having a tough day because I am tired or upset, I think about my commitment and feel better knowing I am doing everything I can and it will happen one day soon.
2. Make the most out of the time you do have with your children- When I get home from work, my full attention is on the babies. I want to spend as much quality time as possible with them before they go to bed. I cherish their bath and bed time routine during the week.
3. Switch schedules at work if you can – I work four 10-hour days, so I am able to spend 3 whole days with the babies before having to go back to work. Try to find a good schedule that gives you the most quality time. Maybe your job will let you work from home one day a week? I know it isn’t possible for everyone, but it might be worth asking your boss about.
4. Focus on the positives – I always try to see the bright side of everything, even when it is difficult. Being mad and grumpy at work every day is not going to change the fact that I have to be there, so I let the negative thoughts go and allow myself to be happy at work. I enjoy the experience, the knowledge I am getting, and the friends that I work with.
If you are in the same position as me, I hope these few tips have helped you or at least realize that you are not alone. I would love to hear your experiences and hear what helps you ease the guilt of being a working mom.